Thursday, 18 September 2014

What Makes YOU Happy? (a personal account)

I am changing. Changing everyday. Existential questions have always occupied a considerable space in my mind. The questions like - Why are we here? What is right and wrong? Why do we feel so much pain? How can we be happy? are always sub-consciously playing on my mind.

I see that my answers to these questions have changed and evolved over time ans are still evolving. From answers like "it's god's will", to arguments like 'being a particle of god', to 'no god', to mere consciousness, and to the fact that some things are beyond our understanding. Knowing 'this' without replacing it with any other prophecies that does not agree with me is empowering. Although it is unsettling at times. My questions and answers prompt many of the decisions I take. Sometimes, I also choose to go against them. Just to remind myself to not become something I myself despise. To remind myself that maybe nothing is really right or wrong. Things just are! There is no one way to reach where you want to reach. There is no one religion, dharma, caste, or belief that can guide you to the answers or the pathway to reach your ultimate goal, except - that change is the only constant.

Many say - "all these thoughts come when you live alone - when you spend time with yourself. One must not think much. It is a waste of time. These thoughts and questions can leave you astray." I agree with them to an extent. Many of us only end up thinking and not really live in the process. However, I do believe that one must find time, and the frame of mind to be able to question things around and in the process find themselves. Also, this is not a one day process.. it may take days, months, or even years but it is worthwhile. It is worthwhile because this gives you the opportunity to be yourself, to know yourself. It helps you do things you love, meet the sort of people you like and live a life that suits your personal motivations and aims. Also, not everyone has the liberty or the fortune to be able to this or even think like this but those who can - world is your oyster.

It is very important for everyone to question - even if the answers are different - all of them. It gives us different perspectives and also teaches us to be tolerant of each other. Besides, you know it is choice you are making and that you do have the right to make one. If there is one quality I appreciate in people  - it is honesty. When they say and know they are selfish and that it makes them happy. When people say "I don't love you anymore", when people say "I need alone time", when people confess "I am not straight", or anything else. I love it that they have the courage to respect their own feelings and that they can stand for themselves. I am glad they don't put up a facade. I love that there are people who can love themselves for those are the people who can truly love others.

It is important to know what makes one happy. This shapes your priorities and also enables you to make decisions that are going to make you happy. Thus, question! I am still finding my answers but I know my journey has begun.

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